<p class="ql-block">原創(chuàng)：倪捷兒 攝影：馬玲、羅悅明、倪捷兒</p> <p class="ql-block">Original: Ni Jie Photography: Ma Ling, Luo Yeming, Ni Jie</p> <p class="ql-block">似春花爛漫，灑滿我青春的季節(jié)；似夏日熱烈，溫暖我生活的角落；似清秋靜好，豐碩我人生的航道；似暖冬和煦，度越我許多的迷茫。您，用竹菊氣節(jié)，構筑我脊柱梁骨；您，用梅蘭芬芳，培育我凝香溢園。念念母儀，靜侯歲月，念念母愛，彌漫心房。謹以此美篇，贊念母愛之廣宇，贊嘆母女之情深。</p> <p class="ql-block">Like the blooming spring flowers, filling my youth season; like the warm summer, warming the corners of my life; like the peaceful autumn, enriching the course of my life; like the warm winter, overcoming many of my confusions. You, with the spirit of bamboo and chrysanthemum, built the backbone of my spine; you, with the fragrance of peony and plum, nurtured me to fill the garden with fragrance. Remembering the mother's virtues, waiting patiently for the passage of time, remembering the mother's love, pervading the heart. With this beautiful piece, I praise the vastness of motherly love and admire the deep affection between mothers and daughters.</p> <p class="ql-block">記憶很神奇，有時候一首歌、一張照片和一篇文章，就會勾起心底的情愫。有一種愛不求回報，有一種愛奉獻到老，有一種愛無怨無悔，這就是媽媽的愛。媽媽今年已93歲，畢業(yè)于浙江醫(yī)科大學，救死扶傷三十載，養(yǎng)兒育女三十載。她醫(yī)術高超，醫(yī)徳高尚；她溫柔賢慧，吃苦耐勞。讓我慢慢訴說我與母親的故事吧。</p> <p class="ql-block">Memories are amazing, sometimes a song, a photo, and an article can evoke emotions from the bottom of your heart. There is a kind of love that does not ask for anything in return, there is a kind of love that is dedicated until old age, and there is a kind of love that has no regrets. This is the love of a mother. My mother is 93 years old this year. She graduated from Zhejiang Medical University, has been saving lives for 30 years, and has raised children for 30 years. She has excellent medical skills and high medical ethics; she is gentle, wise, and hardworking. Let me slowly tell you my story with my mother.</p> <p class="ql-block">大家閨秀，如何造就。外婆育有三女四男，母親排行老三。外婆的育女經是：一是讀書。那個年代的女孩上學是件稀罕的事，但母親本科畢業(yè)于浙江醫(yī)科大學。二是吃苦。千金小姐要洗衣做飯，要照顧弟妹，也要田里勞動。三是責任。年幼時姐姐要帶著弟妹，長大了姐姐要賺錢供弟妹讀書。外婆真是大智慧。</p> <p class="ql-block">How is a gentlewoman created? My grandmother raised three daughters and four sons. My mother was the third in line. My grandmother's parenting philosophy was as follows: First, study. In those days, it was rare for girls to go to school, but my mother graduated from Zhejiang Medical University with a bachelor's degree. Second, endure hardships. A young lady has to do laundry, cook, take care of younger siblings, and work in the fields. Third, take responsibility. When she was young, her elder sister had to take care of her younger siblings. When she grew up, her elder sister had to earn money to pay for her younger siblings' education. My grandmother was truly wise.</p> <p class="ql-block">浪漫相遇，喜結姻緣。1953年8月，母親浙江衛(wèi)校畢業(yè)前往余姚報到，乘車途中巧遇英俊的軍人父親，熱情的父親，陪母親報到并安頓好一切，并互留了通訊地址，后來他們書信來往互生情愫，于1957年8月喜結良緣。1962年9月，父母的愛情結晶，他們的第一個孩子-我，有緣與他們相見了。</p> <p class="ql-block">Romantic encounter, happy marriage. In August 1953, my mother graduated from Zhejiang Health School and went to report to Yuyao. On the way, she met her handsome military father by chance. The enthusiastic father accompanied my mother to report and settled everything, and they exchanged contact information. Later, they exchanged letters and fell in love. In August 1957, they got married happily. In September 1962, the love fruit of my parents, their first child - me, had the chance to meet them.</p> <p class="ql-block">賢妻良母，歲月見證。兒時，父母每月的工資總和不超百元，日子過得緊巴。但能干的母親，不但讓孩子們吃上飽飯，還能吃上零食，滿足孩子們買書買文具的要買。冬日里，把毛線拆了再編織，把棉襖拆了換新棉。過年了，買塊花布自己裁縫，還能讓全家人吃上魚肉。母親的勤勞和精打細算，讓我們的童年過得很快樂。</p> <p class="ql-block">A virtuous wife and a good mother, the years bear witness. When I was a child, my parents' monthly salaries never exceeded 100 yuan, and life was tight. But my capable mother not only made sure my siblings and I had enough to eat, but also allowed us to have snacks and buy books and stationery. In the winter, she would unravel the wool and knit again, and take apart the cotton jacket to replace it with new cotton. During the New Year, she would buy a piece of colorful cloth and sew it herself, so that the whole family could eat fish and meat. My mother's diligence and frugality made our childhood happy.</p> <p class="ql-block">母女情深，今生難忘。從小目睹母親的不易，所以總想著幫幫母親。學齡前學會了買菜買飯、整理房間、照顧弟妹，少年時學會了燒菜做飯、洗衣洗褲、體貼父母。母親常喜歡摸摸我的小胖臉，我則撤嬌地對著母親傻笑，那是被寵愛的滿足。如果遇到母親發(fā)工資，她會帶著我去街里買吃的，冬日里一碗熱騰騰的小混沌，夏日里一碗涼涼冰淇凌，讓我至今難忘。</p> <p class="ql-block">The deep affection between a mother and daughter is unforgettable in this life. From a young age, I witnessed my mother's difficulties, so I always wanted to help her. In preschool, I learned how to buy vegetables and food, tidy up the room, and take care of my younger siblings. In my teenage years, I learned how to cook, do laundry, and be considerate of my parents. My mother often liked to touch my chubby face, and I would giggle foolishly at her, which was the satisfaction of being loved. When my mother received her salary, she would take me to the street to buy food. A steaming hot congee in winter and a cold ice cream in summer, which I still remember.</p> <p class="ql-block">都說丈母娘看女婿 越看越歡喜，真是千準萬確。當時，我在余姚團市委工作，羅爸在寧波團市委工作。每次周末相見，母親都會叮囑我去菜場買魚買肉買好吃的款待，有一次，我偶見羅爸的毛衣舊了，回家與母親順便一說，母親便立馬買來三斤群英牌全毛毛錢，母女不分晝夜地編織，下周羅爸再來，又軟又暖的毛衣毛褲就讓他穿上，把羅爸的心都化了。</p> <p class="ql-block">They say that the mother-in-law looks at her son-in-laws and the more she sees them, the more she is happy. It is absolutely true. At that time, I worked in Yuyao Communist Youth League Municipal Committee, and Luo's father worked in Ningbo Communist Youth League Municipal Committee. Every weekend I saw each other, my mother would tell me to go to the vegetable market to buy fish, meat and delicious food. Once, when I saw that Papa's sweater was old, I went home to talk to my mother, and my mother immediately bought three pounds of sterling dollars. The mother and daughter knitted around the clock. The next week, when Papa came back, he put on the soft, warm sweater and trousers, which changed his heart.</p> <p class="ql-block">1986年7月，與羅爸喜結連理。母親傾其所有，為女兒精心添置嫁妝，床上用品、服飾手飾和電器設備，那時的財務和物資是緊缺的，進口的電器只有僑匯商場有，母親真是有本事，居然如愿購到女兒陪嫁的四大件，把我的小姐妹都眼紅的不行。清楚記得，當母親給錢讓我買幾件新衣時，自己口袋已只剩下20元。</p> <p class="ql-block">In July 1986, she married Luo Ba. Her mother spent everything she had to carefully prepare a dowry for her daughter, including bedding, clothing, accessories, and electrical appliances. At that time, financial and material resources were scarce, and imported electrical appliances were only available at the Overseas Chinese Exchange Market. My mother was really capable; she managed to buy the four major items for my sister-in-law, which made my other female friends envious. I clearly remember that when my mother gave me money to buy some new clothes, I only had 20 yuan left in my pocket.</p> <p class="ql-block">婚后，我學著母親的樣勤儉持家，把一元錢當二元用；學著母親的樣養(yǎng)育孩子，日夜陪伴樂在其中；學著母親的樣經營婚姻，互敬互愛比翼雙飛；學著母親的樣為人師表，把學生當成自己的弟妹。女兒已出嫁為人妻人母，母親還是牽心掛腸。缺錢了，肯定是她第一個遞上錢；生病了，肯定是她第一個站在病床前。</p> <p class="ql-block">After marriage, I learned from my mother how to be thrifty and manage the household, using one yuan as if it were two yuan; I learned from my mother how to raise children, spending day and night with them and enjoying it; I learned from my mother how the marriage should be managed, respecting and loving each other and flying together; I learned from my mother how a teacher should behave, treating students as if they were my own siblings. My daughter has already married and become a mother, but my mother is still worried about her. When she is short of money, she will definitely be the first to offer money; when she is sick, she will definitely be the first at the bedside.</p> <p class="ql-block">母親從退休的那日起，便伴我左右，幫我度過各種困難。那年冬天，我參加浙師大在職學習，女兒還只有八個月，大雪紛飛，母女三人同行在就學路上場景還歷歷在目，如果沒有母親相伴，都無法想像怎樣完成學業(yè)。女兒上幼兒園了，我也給父母報了老年大學，從此才真正開啟了母親幸福的晚年享樂生活。</p> <p class="ql-block">Since the day of my retirement, my mother has been at my side and helping me through all kinds of difficulties. That winter, I attended Zhejiang Normal University on a part-time basis. My daughter was only eight months old. The snow was falling. The three of us walked together on our way to school. Without my mother, we could not imagine how to complete our studies. My daughter went to kindergarten, and I also reported to my parents the university for the aged. From then on, I really opened the happy life of my mother.</p> <p class="ql-block">2006年3月，我隨羅爸工作調動來到杭州，不久父母也移居杭州。他們對杭州格外的歡喜和親切，他們最愛的女兒女婿在，他們青春年華的記憶在。約著朋友們，去看早春二月植物園的梅香滿園，去看陽春三月蘇堤的桃紅柳綠，去看仲夏曲苑風荷的滿園荷花，去聞金秋十月杭州的滿城桂香，去看冬日濕地的蘆葦飄飄。</p> <p class="ql-block">In March 2006, I came to Hangzhou with my father's job transfer. Soon after, my parents also moved to Hangzhou. They were especially happy and kind to Hangzhou. They loved their daughter and son-in-law, and their memories of their youth were there. They met with friends to see the plum blossoms in full bloom in the botanical garden in early February, the peach blossoms and willows in full bloom on the Su Causeway in early March, the lotus flowers in full bloom in the garden in mid-summer, the full city of osmanthus fragrance in Hangzhou in late October, and the reeds floating in wetlands in winter.</p> <p class="ql-block">轉眼間，時光的指針來到了2019年，父母來杭州定居已足足十二年。杭州真是絕妙的地方，好山好水養(yǎng)好人，我從來沒感覺自己已年過半百，感覺自己還如少女一般愛做粉色夢，還如少婦一般愛穿衣打扮，甚至如少年一般雄心壯志，父母的心態(tài)也一樣年輕活躍。父母哺育了我們長大，現(xiàn)在該是我們反哺他們的時候了。</p> <p class="ql-block">In the blink of an eye, the pointer of time has reached 2019, and my parents have settled in Hangzhou for twelve years. Hangzhou is really a wonderful place. Good mountains and water nurture good people. I have never felt that I was over half my life. I still feel like a young girl who loves to dream in pink, like a young woman who loves to dress up, and even like a young man who is full of ambition. My parents' mentality is just as young and active. My parents raised us up, and now it's time for us to repay them.</p> <p class="ql-block">讓父母有好的養(yǎng)老環(huán)境、生活照顧和精神享受，這個念頭在我心中醞釀了好些年，直到2019年才如愿以償。朗和國際醫(yī)養(yǎng)中心，成了父母幸福的港灣，長者大都來自高校、醫(yī)院、機關退休的，琴棋書畫、唱歌跳舞，熱鬧非凡。2020年初疫情期間，與父母整整兩個半月未見。那一日，我們相擁著來到了波光粼粼的西湖。</p> <p class="ql-block">To provide parents with a good environment for old age, life care, and spiritual enjoyment, this idea has been brewing in my mind for many years, and I finally achieved it in 2019. Lang International Health Care Center has become a happy haven for parents. Most of the elderly come from retired universities, hospitals, and institutions. They play musical instruments, chess, calligraphy, painting, sing, dance, and are lively. In the early 2020 pandemic, I did not see my parents for two and a half months. On that day, we hugged and came to the sparkling West Lake.</p> <p class="ql-block">2020年6月7日，是父親的90大壽，父親說要與母親一起過，就隨父親的心愿一起過吧。不高調、不排場、不鋪張浪費，我們用心籌劃了一場低調、簡樸和熱鬧的壽宴。壽宴就安排在朗和，戴王冠、點蠟燭、許心愿、吹蠟燭、齊唱生日歌、祝福、合影等，一個環(huán)節(jié)都不能少。親人歡聚一堂其樂融融，父母笑得合不攏嘴。</p> <p class="ql-block">On June 7, 2020, it was my father's 90th birthday. My father said he wanted to spend it with my mother, so we followed his wishes and had a low-key, simple, and lively birthday celebration. We carefully planned a low-key, simple, yet lively and lively birthday celebration. The birthday celebration was arranged at Langhe, and the activities included wearing crowns, lighting candles, making wishes, blowing out candles, singing birthday songs, giving blessings, and taking photos together. The family gathered together and enjoyed themselves, and the parents couldn't stop smiling.</p> <p class="ql-block">朗和的朗字，出自《詩經.大雅.既醉》：昭明有融，高朗令終。和字，則出自《黃帝內經》：法于陰陽，和于術數(shù)。朗和一直秉承“用心陪伴用心愛”的服務宗旨，得到同行和長者們的一致好評，省市各級領導也先后來朗和考察，給予肯定和支持。植根于內心的善念，是最真的情懷；發(fā)源于天道的行為，是最美的姿態(tài)。</p> <p class="ql-block">The word "lang" in Langhe comes from "The Book of Songs. The Great Song. After Drinking": Bright and clear, high and noble. The word "he" comes from "Huangdi Neijing": Follow the yin and yang, and harmonize with the arts. Langhe has always adhered to the service purpose of "accompanying with heart and loving with heart", and has received high praise from peers and the elderly. Provincial and municipal leaders have also visited Langhe in succession, giving affirmation and support. The goodness rooted in the heart is the truest sentiment; the behavior originating from the Tao is the most beautiful posture.</p> <p class="ql-block">2022年5月，父母來到了離我一墻之隔的五云山療養(yǎng)院康復中心。順是最好的孝，陪伴是最長情的告白，父母的笑容里透著歡喜和幸福，那也是子女最歡喜和幸福的事。小時候父母陪著我們數(shù)夏夜的星星，現(xiàn)在就讓我們陪著他們數(shù)星星；小時候父母為我們辦生日宴，現(xiàn)在就讓我們圍坐他們身邊給賀壽。小時候父母為我們遮風擋雨，如今，我們也該成為他們最堅實的依靠。</p> <p class="ql-block">In May 2022, my parents came to the Wuyun Mountain Rehabilitation Center, which is just a wall away from me. The best filial piety is to accompany them, and the longest-lasting confession is to accompany them. The joy and happiness in their smiles are the happiest and happiest things for children. When we were children, our parents accompanied us to count the stars on summer nights. Now let us accompany them to count the stars. When we were children, our mothers and fathers held birthday parties for us. Now let us sit around them and celebrate their birthday. When our parents shielded us from the wind and rain, now it is our turn to become their most solid support.</p> <p class="ql-block">2022年8月，父母與我們同住林月居。父母有滋有味過起了神仙般的生活，鍛煉、聊天、下棋、練琴、喝茶、玩手機、弄花草。我負責一日三餐，每天變著花樣葷菜搭配。看著父母的笑容，常常使我感動，使我欣慰，使我安寧。陪伴，是日復一日，是點點滴滴。陪伴父母過百年，既是自己的責任，也是自己最好的修為。</p> <p class="ql-block">In August 2022, our parents lived with us in Lin Yue Ju. Our parents lived a life like a fairy, exercising, chatting, playing chess, practicing piano, drinking tea, playing with mobile phones, and taking care of flowers and plants. I was responsible for three meals a day, and I changed the combination of meat dishes every day. Watching my parents' smiles often moved me, made me feel relieved, and made me feel at peace. Companionship is day by day, in every moment. Accompanying parents for a hundred years is both one's responsibility and one's best cultivation.</p> <p class="ql-block">在父母的養(yǎng)老問題上，羅爸給予我莫大的支持。他常常與父母聊聊天，還耐心地教母親吹奏葫蘆絲，并歡樂的與母親合奏，會拉二胡給父母聽，還會把自己寫好的書法給父母欣賞并探討?？粗麄冇H密無間的模樣，我常常很感動。都說女婿是半子，父母真心贊美，他們的女婿是全子，比全子還好。</p> <p class="ql-block">In terms of my parents' old-age care, my father gave me great support. He often chatted with my parents, patiently taught my mother how to play the hulusi, and happily played with my mother. He also played the erhu for my parents to listen to and showed my parents his calligraphy that he had written. Seeing their intimate appearance, I was often very moved. It is said that a son-in-law is half a son, but my parents truly praise their son-in-law as a full son, even better than a full son.</p> <p class="ql-block">2023年5月初，多年不見的表哥、表姐和表姐夫們，從嵊泗、上海來到我的家-林月居，看望他們的阿姨和姨夫，樂得父母合不攏了嘴。那歡喜的眼神，那燦爛的笑容，如這春光般明媚，講過去的故事，講今天的故事，你看著我，我看著你，場面實在太溫馨了。對長者而言，親人情永遠是他們晚年最喜歡、最開心的。</p> <p class="ql-block">In early May 2023, my cousins, aunts, and uncles, who had not seen each other for many years, came from Shengsi and Shanghai to my home, Lin Yue Ju, to visit their aunt and uncle. Their parents were so happy that they couldn't stop smiling. The joyful look in their eyes and the bright smile were as bright as the spring sunshine. They told stories about the past and the present. You looked at me, I looked at you, the scene was too warm. For the elderly, family love is always their favorite and happiest in their later years.</p> <p class="ql-block">2023年5月中旬，父母新冠雙雙住院。出院后，父親基本臥床不起了，母親的老年癡呆癥加極，還開始出現(xiàn)妄想。我的身心也累到極致，但咬咬牙生活還得繼續(xù)。2024年5月中旬，母親因爆發(fā)老年癡呆妄想癥，而不得不送去杭州市第一人民醫(yī)院城北院區(qū)治療，不舍和無奈，再心痛也只能讓父母分開，媽媽現(xiàn)已適應那兒的生活照顧和病癥治療。</p> <p class="ql-block">In mid-May 2023, both parents were hospitalized with COVID-19. After being discharged, my father was basically bedridden, and my mother's Alzheimer's disease worsened, and she also began to develop delusions. My physical and mental exhaustion reached its limit, but I had to bite my teeth and continue living. In mid-May 2024, my mother had to be sent to the North District of the First People's Hospital of Hangzhou for treatment due to the outbreak of Alzheimer's disease and delusions. Although I was reluctant and helpless, I had no choice but to separate my parents. My mother has now adapted to the life care and treatment of the disease there.</p> <p class="ql-block">童年，父母讓我感受到愛的幸福，教會我如何去愛一個人。青年，傳承著父母給予滿滿的愛，尋覓到我愛和愛我的丈夫，養(yǎng)育了我愛和愛我的女兒。如果把人生看成一段詩，那么母愛父愛就是這詩中最深情的畫筆；如果把人生看成一首歌，那么母愛父愛就是歌中最動人的音符。天之大，唯有母親父親的愛完美無瑕。我要用行動，盡我余生最大的力，讓父母天天快樂幸福。</p> <p class="ql-block">In my childhood, my parents made me feel the happiness of love and taught me how to love someone. In my youth, I inherited the full love from my parents, found my husband who loves me and me, and raised my daughter who loves me and me. If life is seen as a poem, then motherly and fatherly love is the most affectionate brushstroke in the poem; if life is seen as a song, then motherly and fatherly affection is the most touching note in the song. The love of my mother and father is perfect and flawless. I will use my actions to make my parents happy every day with all my strength for the rest of my life.</p> <p class="ql-block">攝影: 馬玲，羅悅明，倪捷兒 文字：倪捷兒 出鏡人：田如華、倪捷兒、倪成明、羅悅明等</p> <p class="ql-block">Photography: Ma Ling, Luo Yeming, Ni Jieye Text: Ni Jieye Appearance: Tian Ruhua, Ni Jieye, Ni Chengming, Luo Yeming, etc.</p>